Its my wish to have a conversation, we're going to tell the truth, the real truth and nothing but the truth. I've lived in America for 30+ years and I love this country for all the right reasons some even for the wrong one, but most importantly I love it for the the freedom, the sense of space,the choices you can make or don't make, to win, to lose, to drown, to fail, but I always know that, the odds are not stacked against you, regardless of what they say. You can make change, and you can go places, there are fifty states, each one unique, and each one has a good, bad. You have choices. But one thing has always been very important here. The sense of dimension, the limits, the abuse, the absolutely stunning expanse of food, and drinks and commercial product which makes our country so wealthy. so rich,but also is our downfall. So you wonder how I lose weight, why, some people even went as far as to think something was wrong. Maybe I was having a medical problem, but if you're a doctor, if you're in a medical business, you maybe want to start looking at different people, because with me you never made any money. I'm very healthy, good farmer stock,I work hard, play, run. Unlike the American model "you work hard, you play hard" mine is very simple: work hard, play smart. Smart because life is not a sprint its simply a long drawn out marathon, and if you know historically in Italy we don't have good sprinters, but we have tremendous marathoners.
It all began because after many many years here going along, getting along, teaching people, cooking, I was having an emotional moment because I missed my mother, I missed her face, I missed her touch, I missed her embrace. So I felt it was time for me to spend some time with this wonderful woman who has given to the world 6 children, and with so little, made so much of it. So I figure maybe it is time for me to go back and spend some time with her, so Easter time which is the greatest time for me to go back to Italy, when you actually feel the spring coming. and everybody starts getting in a great mood. In April went and I was alone with her, which was special, I'd always been with my confidence, so she took full opportunities to let it all out, talk about the most intimate, the most important things. Some revelations, old news like all mothers do, but most importantly, she helped me in a very succint way to understand what is wrong, what is right, what is important, what is not,and so I started to slowly go back to my old life, the life of Massimo in the village with farmers,nice humble people from a humble beginning. Get up in the morning at five o' clock, just as the neighbors do my mom waited for me and she made the coffee. She would talk about this, and that, and the other things. Then I'd take a walk on my farm., Its a very large farm, it goes up and down the mountainside and I revisited all of my childhood spots and recollected about some memories and some desires that I had when I was a child. I thought about how much I did and I took an inventory of my life. not the foolish ones, wanting to be a pirate or a king. but the ones that are truly in your soul. Being a great human being, helping others, making good to my promise to be self-sustained, have an honest life,profit from your talents, and help others along the way. So all in all, yes, quite an amazing life, quite an amazing journey, met amazing people, went amazing places, but I looked down the valleys of my town, the smiling sun breaking on the bay of Naples I realized that the world is full of misery, and unbalance, but its such a wonderdul world, there's so many opportunities, so many great things. So I come back to my farm, walking home, and the classic image of my household from the south, there is not an abundance of a lot of things, we make most of our things, if you don't make it, you don't have it so I realaxed with a beautiful bowl of fruit a fresh vegetable from the farm, I ate my lunch, took a nice walk with my friends, every time you show up uninvited, unannounced, people welcome you with open arms and they always ask you if you would like coffee, a glass of water, so I take my glass of water because I already had a coffee and we sit down and talk about things nobody brings salsa and chips, nobody brings pretzels, nobody is trying to have a buffet of cheap crap, but just a good conversation, and what I loved about it was that I think intellectually I was incredibly challenged. and I loved it, it was all overthe place, it was about personal,it was about religion, it was about politics, it was about sex, everything was on the table and nobody ever felt offended, we were challenged, we knew what the conversation was about and I loved it. I visited with my other friends, we did the same, go to restaurants and everything was amazing because, sometimes when we bring friends from abroad. We try to entertain them, we give them a little bit of everything, so they get this wrong impression that we do this all the time. This lifestyle of abundant food and gluttony. For us it is about the company. We serve fresh fish, local meats that are grass fed, wild game, but always very parsimonious,without overdoing it. I soon realized, that by having these life rythms I lost quite a bit of weight, but I also feel very strong, very good, so in a moment of lucidity, I realized its not what people do or don't do, it is us, each individual has to make a descision. There is no excuse whether you're 30 or 40 or 50 or 20 to live a life of gluttony and a life of abuse, whether its alchol, food, or everything else, you can't get a different result than what you're going to see out there. Psychologically,some people lose their edge and they need medication. They stop feeling good about themselves, they always have issues with everything and everybody. I don't, I have some problems like everybody else, in my daily affairs, personal affairs, but those are not obstacles we cannot handle or live with. I make my decisions and other people make theirs, but in reality, we personally make our choices.
So what I did, after I came back to the States, after I took a large and comprehensive inventory of my existence I decided there's only one thing that I can do is to take care of myself. When I did that it was like a domino effect, then you're strong and healthy you can take care of your family, you can take care of your friends, you can take care of your business. That realization gave me an incredible level of energy and creativity and now I feel like there is no stop to what I can do. I don't see my age an the impediment. Rather, I see it is a wonderful asset to people, to my friends, to my customers; because I have the experience and maturity to know what makes sense, to tell how it makes sense, for who. And so this is becoming a very interesting life because now 47 pounds later;life adjustment, relationship adjustment, we get into a place where we can talk about it. If you're curious we can talk about it in detail, because this blog is about honesty, this blog is about food, its about wine, its about the politics of life, its about the politics of our religious upbringing and the way you eat. It affects the way we make our choices, when we work in our restaurants we know when it is a Jewish holiday, a Muslim holiday, a Christian holiday and it affects our pocketbook, it affects our business, but it affects us in a wonderful way too. In our Mediterranean tradition we are very inclusive and we are creatures of life and we love life in all its forms , there's no right, there's no wrong, some people think they have all of the answers.
I'm a farmer. I know that there are good days, I know that there are bad days, but you always reap what you sow. You've got to laugh. You can't take yourself way too seriously. Stop walking around carrying the weights of the world.
Lets start this conversation by saying let's all be a little Italian, when people say you're full of BS you say " but BS will give you a good smile and we need a little more BS."
Salute
Don't do the obvious, don't do too repetitious, the palate is like life, it needs to be stimulated, be excited. for years and years you have been told what's good for you, and you found out there is not too much value in spinach, and now you know why you hate them because they were not that good after all. There are so many other exciting vegetables. Get off your butt, get away from your beige neighborhood, vanilla stores.Walk on the wild side, go to Little Saigon, go to Korea Town, the Chinese stores. When you go to the vegetable market don't just buy the same old granola mixed with worthless whitebreads. Go to the little asian stand where they grow all of those amazing green leafy vegetables. Buy yourself some fresh tumeric roots, shave it like you do with your ginger and garlic, with EVOO and spray it very lightly with a little water and salt. You'll be in heaven with the flavors, close your eyes, the flavors, textures, excitement.
Life is a carnival, don't just sit in the living room looking at the same beige wall listening to the same idiot on TV talking about things that don't mean anything aside from trying to sell you another commercial. "Wait in thirty seconds. wait", don't, get up, buy yourself some fresh persimmon, taste it. They're just as exciting as apples and pears. Buy yourself some guava, some unique flavors you've never had before. Gorgueous beautiful little colorful ball, with yellow seeds inside. That's passionfruit my friend, passion, you've got to crack the shell to get into the passion. When you taste it to your palate it wakes up your passion. Its a tangy,sweet, sour, beautiful lemon-y, melon-y flavors, deep and long absolutely stunning. It vibrates into your brain cells. That's eating, that's discovering, that's life. When you put that beautiful first spoonful of whipping cream that you never had before, its like mothers milk. Or taste the first slice of watermelon on a summer's day, that's just happiness. so you can sit on your couch in your lounge chair and wonder, or you can get off the couch and start living. So you all know what to do, just stop being afraid of it, just do it. Happy New Years from the bottom of my heart, and if you are as passionate about life as I am, you can come to the wild side, because here at Onotria we do things the right way. Slow, fun, silly, incredibily on target. Life is worth living. Like my buddy Roberto used to say, la vita e` bella.
